I have been thin my whole life. I am a petite person and barely stand at 5′ 2″. I didn’t pass 100 lbs (45.3 kg) until I was a sophomore in high school. I have never given blood because I did not weigh enough. (You have to weigh 110 lbs/49.9 kg)
I now weigh much more than ever. I am struggling with this fact quite a bit. I realize that yes, I am supposed to be gaining weight, but it is still very hard to see myself in a mirror or look at numbers on a scale. I know that I am not gaining weight just because of lifestyle choices. There is a living little baby inside me who is growing. I have amniotic fluid, a placenta, and a baby. All those things together have made my belly expand, and my weight go up.
When I was in high school, my best friend joked that when I got pregnant I would look like a straw with a grape stuck in it. I would agree that this is a somewhat accurate picture of me right now. I still struggle, though. I feel like I am too large and have gained too much weight.
Today someone asked when my due date was. I told her it was in November, and she looked absolutely shocked! She then told me that she didn’t think I would make it that far because I looked about ready to go now. I am only 5 1/2 months pregnant. I still have over 3 months to go. Those words stung. I smiled and laughed, though, because I was supposed to. I am sure she didn’t realize that what she said really played on my uncertainties at this point. What she said really bothered me.
Lately I have been scrutinizing everything that I eat because I don’t want to eat too much. I do eat 3 meals a day and snack once or twice between, but I am really worried that it is too much at times. I have already gained 20 pounds (9 kg). I don’t want to gain more than 35 lbs (15.8 kg). That is the upper end of what is recommended, but I don’t know if that will happen. I am also torn because I don’t want deprive my baby. It is a constant struggle on a daily basis.
So, if you are ever faced with a pregnant woman, please do not tell her that she looks ready to pop at any point or that you don’t think she is going to make it to her due date. I can pretty much guarantee that she does not feel good about her body and the weight she has gained. Your words, even in joking, can sting deeper than you think.